The Art of Flirtation: how dating has evolved

Online dating is becoming a thing of the past. People are, once again, yearning for face-to-face interactions. According to a recent study from Stanford University, the top two ways people meet these days are either through friends, or while out at a restaurant or bar.

Relationship expert Kimberly Brenner, of El Paso, says that while people are increasingly getting back out into the public to meet potential romantic partners, "the challenge now is that people don't know how to communicate."

Maryellen Wheatley is a local Meetup organizer who encourages people to join the El Paso Sports & Social Club as an opportunity to meet new friends. "It's just good practice being around new people, and you get to kind of hone your communication skills and networking," Wheatley says.

KFOX14 asked various singles where they go to meet potential partners. Answers included everything from the gym to gay bars, and one person simply said, "Just out. Out and about."

For those reentering the dating game, some may be hesitant on how to approach a potential romantic interest. Emotions take over as people doubt themselves, wondering how to initiate conversation and what more to say. That's where Brenner comes back into the picture. According to the expert, it is all about creating one key thing - attachment.

Brenner suggests that you follow a simple recipe: "Ask questions." The goal is to create attachment through sharing. Be attentive during the conversation. Share memories and feelings. You want the other person to really hone in on how you would respond in a particular situation. Brenner says the "big buzz" right now is "to share, to bond, to attach."

To sum it up, the art of flirtation can be thought of like a cocktail recipe.

The Attachment Cocktail

1 part questions

1 part memories

Garnish with charm

Directions: For good conversation, make sure to ask questions and share some memories. Shaken to perfection, this recipe will help you work up the nerve to talk to anyone and seal the deal with charm.

Other relationship experts also suggest that you be alert during conversation. Take note of the other person's body language and allow those social cues to guide you in making good decisions.

According to human resources professional Fred Perea, just remember to be cautious if your crush sits in a nearby cubicle. There is a new, heightened awareness surrounding sexual harassment in the workplace amidst the recent take-down of celebrities and politicians. Perea comes to KFOX14 with decades of knowledge in the workplace, having served as the past president of the local chapter of HR professionals. Perea forewarns, "It can take just one time for things to go south." He says, "Putting your hand on someone's back and rubbing it is an absolute no-no.” Actual physical contact should be avoided in the workplace in order to stay on the right side of the law.

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